Friends of indecisiveness (or enemies of decisiveness) are: Maybe, I don’t know, I’m not sure, We’ll see, Perhaps…
We have all experienced the gap between wanting to do something and fearing doing it. One force pushes us forward, the other holds us back. One wants us to learn new things, experience new situations, start new relationships. The other wants to keep us safe, risk-free, secure results, create certainty, avoiding criticism, mistakes, perhaps failure.
Those who hesitate are in hold-back mode and make decisions from that perspective. Someone decisive views the road ahead from the prism of new opportunities, risk-taking and optimism. One finds excuses not to act, the other seeks to expand horizons.
To be more decisive we could ask ourselves: am I willing to lose this opportunity? What would I do differently if I had courage? How can I visualize positive outcomes? If I decided to be decisive, how would I tap my inner strength, talent, abilities and experience? What would I advise my best friend to do? Is the option to being stuck acceptable? Will it make me happy?
By agreeing to try something new, decision makers bet on succeeding in the future. But they are also willing to lose.
And remember, a decision to say Yes to something is also a decision to say No to something else.